Mr. Codes

As most of you have probably seen through my thousands of Facebook and Instagram posts we have a new dog! Our little furry family is complete....for now ;) Chad and I have been seriously discussing getting another dog for a few months now and in February really started our search. We've known pretty much since we got Aspen that eventually we'd get another dog, it was just a matter of timing.

This time around we wanted a shelter/rescue dog. Both Chad and I have a huge heart for these animals and their situations. It breaks our hearts that these dogs are overlooked because of breed or their "issues because they're shelter dogs." Our new guy is living proof of how awesome they can be! 

Before meeting Cody we met two potential siblings for Aspen that fell through. First we met Maddie, a Blue Heeler that was just precious but when she met Aspen the teeth came out and she tried to attack our baby, so that was a no. Next we met Annie, an adorable white Pitbull who we absolutely loved! Unfortunately, this time Aspen was the one who didn't like her. At this point we felt hopeless that we'd find a right match. 

Occasionally I'd check a website called petfinder.com. I typed in cattle dog, male, medium size, and 100 mile radius from Cincinnati. Lots of options popped up, including Cody. To be honest I wasn't really interested in him but I sent an inquiry just for the heck of it. Next thing you know the three of us are driving to the middle of nowhere to meet this little fur ball. Neither Chad or I had high hopes and chalked the whole trip up to seeing new sights. Well, when we got there it was love at first sight! He was so sweet, funny, and a little weird....he was perfect for us. The big test was Miss Aspen. Being in a new place with all kinds of animals, sounds, and smells completely stressed her out and we expected her to lash out at Cody. Instead, they sniffed each other, played a bit, and basically ignored each other. For Aspen, this was huge. We knew he was it. They said we could take him home right then but we had absolutely nothing ready! 

That next week Chad was in California so I prepared the house for our new baby, and tried to prepare my current baby as much as I could for this new change. 

On Saturday, Febraury 28 we adopted Cody, formally known as Biggie. We decided to change his name for a few reasons: he really isn't that big, all I think of is Biggie Smalls, and we wanted it to match Aspen (west coast and a city). He has responded to it very nicely and doesn't seem to be confused which is great! He is supposedly a year and a half. We'll be celebrating his 2nd birthday in July. We aren't exactly sure what he is but we think he's Red Heeler and Beagle. He's shorter than Aspen but about the same weight....he's a little chunker :) 

When we brought him home Aspen and him played like best friends outside but inside Aspen was very territorial and did not like another dog in her house. By Sunday afternoon they were playing in the house and sleeping in each others' beds. Aspen still gets jealous but we are trying to give her extra attention and love so she knows everything is fine. The transition is going way better than expected and we couldn't be happier! We think this new addition is exactly what our family needed. He is very playful but knows how to relax which is exactly what Aspen needs in her life. 

His personality is complete love bug. All he wants is to bury his head in your lap and receive kisses and belly rubs. We can tell there must have been some abuse in the past because when you come up to him he will sometimes coward down, it breaks my heart. His story is he was dumped in a field at an unspecified age and a woman called the shelter to pick him up because the property he was on was owned by a woman who was going to kill him just for being a dog. When he was rescued he was 8 months old. He's been a great dog so far! He hasn't done anything scold-worthy and just wants to play with his sister, get loved on, and sleep. 

We love that Aspen now has a buddy and we have a new little boy to love. This is a really joyous time in our little family and I'm so excited to share it with you! Thank you for all the sweet posts and I can't wait for everyone to meet him and play with them both! 

xoxo

Finding the Path to My Purpose

      

        When I was a kid the first thing I remember wanting to be was a ballerina. However, my mom told me that when I was about three I wanted to be a cat.... Since then I've wanted to be a princess, vet, teacher, lawyer, chef, business owner, elf, interior designer, model, event coordinator, counselor, and probably so much more. I'm still waiting for a long lost relative to call and say I'm an heir and Food Network to realize I'm a boss at microwaving leftovers but until then I'm stumped. When we were kids the sky was the limit with our dreams but anywhere between 16 and 18 the dreams come to a halt and the reality check hits. College visits, deciding a major, and basically planning your entire future. Who thought that was a good idea?? When I was a teenager I could barely decide where to go to lunch let alone decide my future!

       I started college as a business management major because I wanted to be an event planner. When I got my internship I realized quickly experience was more important than knowing business and as I start Accounting 101 I realized I hated business management. I switched to Family and Consumer Science which was the best decision I've ever made (besides marrying Chad <3). It was the first time I actually succeeded in school and was passionate about academics. I loved every minute of my program studies! People always ask me what this major is so here is Montana State University's definition: "The Family and Consumer Sciences (FCS) profession is dedicated to enhancing the relationships among individuals, families, communities and the environments in which they function. The family and consumer sciences profession takes leadership in improving individual, family, and community well-being; impacting the development, delivery, and evaluation of consumer goods and services; influencing the creation of policy; and shaping societal change, thereby enhancing the human condition."Sounds good, right? The problem is I have no clue what to do with it! 

       By the way, our society doesn't like that. When I tell people I'm 23 and don't know what I want out of life I get a look of pity. Like, I'm unfocused and irresponsible because I haven't decided what I want to do for the next 50 years. Does anyone know what they really want for the next 50 years?!?! Is it that bad to not have it figured out? I struggle with this all the time. As much as I love my husbands (and that's a lot) it's hard living in his shadow sometimes. He's known from a very young age he wanted to be an engineer. He got a degree in it, received a job offer right out of the gate, then got his master's (for free!!!). Now he's making bank, climbing corporate ladders, and loving it. I mean, that happens to no one! Come on, Chad! ;) I couldn't be more proud of him but that type of focus is something I've never known. I love and have a passion for so many things I can't decide which one is best. I guess you could say I have passion ADHD. I cannot decide what I want to do. I just want to love it! Heck, I'd be happy being a barista the rest of my life if that's what God had for me. 

       I guess I'm writing this because I wonder if there are others out there that struggle with this? Struggle with not knowing their purpose in life. Struggle with feeling inadequate because they don't have a true profession. Wishing God would provide a neon sign saying "THIS IS WHAT I WANT YOU TO DO!" I assume most Christ followers have prayed the same prayer I have: "Lord, I'll do whatever you want if you'll just show me what it is." It's never that easy, is it? God loves to be creative instead of obvious. Sometimes beautiful but let's be honest, most of the time annoying. Does anyone else struggle with this? Not knowing? Not even a little clue?!?!

       As a Christ follower I know my true purpose in life is to show God's love, follow His will, and hopefully bring others to Him. I love that! It's comforting to know that is what life is truly about, but which avenue do I take to allow all those things to happen? I know, trust God. That's the answer to it all. Easier said than done for this imperfect girl. I guess that has been my prayer through it all, that I would trust Him enough to lead me to the right passion in His right timing. That is my prayer for you too. I know I can't be alone in this and I'm praying earnestly for The Lord to reveal your calling as well. 

       Thanks for letting me rant and I hope that this post could be somewhat of an encouragement for those struggling like me. Thankfully we are not alone and we have each other and The Creator on our side with only the best intentions for our life. That is such a joy and huge relief! Praise Jesus for His perfect will and timing! Who knows, maybe I can still become a cat....


Maddie 

The New Year

I can't believe we are already into 2015! This year went by so fast! Crazy is the only word I can think of to describe it lol! Here is a little recap of the end of our year and what we expect for 2015:

2014 ended wonderfully with a trip to California to visit my family. With Aspen in tow we enjoyed the sunshine and being in Redlands. We were able to see lots of friends and family and just relax! Leaving was insanely difficult for all of us but we bounced back into Midwest life pretty painlessly.

Jan. 5th we celebrated one year of marriage! I can't believe it's already been a year. I feel like it was just yesterday! Since it was a Monday and we had just gotten back from CA we just went out to dinner and recovered from our trip. It's still so exciting to me that it has been a whole year!! I love him more today than I did a year ago and I wouldn't trade being Mrs. Chad Wentling for anything! :) <3 

Jan. 12-ish marked one year in Cincinnati for me. Everyone said give it a year and you'll be fine. Well, it's been a year and still not a fan. LOVE our friends and church though. They make it fun but I'd rather just steal them all and make them move back west with me. Maybe I'll work on that this year... 

Jan. 18th marked one year with our peanut, Miss Aspen. Again, can't believe it's been a year. It hasn't been an easy one but totally worth it! She's becoming an awesome dog ( I can't say puppy anymore, wahhhh!!) and we wouldn't trade her for the world! 

We took a spontaneous trip to Charlotte, NC in the middle of January which was so fun! Charlotte is a great town that's trendy but still has that classic southern charm. It was great to get away, just the two of us, and enjoy being together. 

Chad will be doing a lot of traveling these next few months. They're trying to wrap up their project with AirBus which isn't going as smoothly as planned. Chad is just a boss and knows everything about everything and is getting the job done! I'm insanely proud of him for being the point person for this current project but at the same time I want my hubby home!! 

I'm still at Equipping Ministries as their office manager. It's getting better but definitely not what I want to be doing forever. The problem is I still don't know what my calling is but I'm trusting The Lord will lead me there when the timing is right. For now I'm just working hard and keeping my eye out for any good opportunities. 

Our main goal for 2015 is to get ourselves and our house together. We have both gained so much weight since being married. It's disgusting. We are both sick of it and are changing things up! It's exciting to be back on track. We'd love your support and encouragement with this journey. Also, we've noticed that after only one year of marriage we have collected so much crap! We both absolutely hate clutter and totally believe that living simpler is the way to go. So, we've decided that once a year we are going to have a major clean out of all the things we don't need and either sell them or give them to charity. This spring we'll be having our first garage sale and are stoked to get rid of some of the clutter and get organized. 

In March we'll be taking a trip to Cabo San Lucas, Mexico. My parents have recently fallen in love with the area and invited us down there to see it. Obviously we could not pass that up! We cannot wait to escape the cold and relax on the beach with margarita in hand. 

As always we will be traveling all over this year: Montana, California, Nebraska, Michigan, and who knows where else. We both love traveling but agree it's getting old going to the same places. Sadly, our vacations feel more like obligations to see as many friends and family members as possible in the shortest amount of time. Obviously we love seeing them but we come back more exhausted than when we left. Our goal in the future is to explore new places and have new experiences with our friends and family beside us. That way we all get a vacation! We'll see how it goes lol.

We're also expecting to get a second dog in 2015. We feel like a second pup will complete our little family and we would love a sibling/playmate for Aspen. We are being very thoughtful and prayerful about it as it is not a light decision. Reason being is Aspen can be quite a little diva when it comes to other dogs. Some she loves and others she wants no part of. We expect this process to be lengthy but are excited for the future member of our family. 

We can't wait to see what 2015 will hold and I promise to keep you updated as much as I can! I hope your holidays were absolutely wonderful and you have a great 2015! 

Love ya'll! 

Leftover Turkey Gumbo

Hey! 

I wanted to share a recipe I found that my husband just adored. It's very hearty, slightly spicy, and will use up a lot of leftover Thanksgiving/Christmas turkey. It's a turkey and andouille sausage gumbo. Here's the link: http://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/emeril-lagasse/turkey-andouille-gumbo-recipe.html The directions are slightly vague so you might feel a little lost during the process. My advice is add 2 1/2 or 3 quarts of stock (I used chicken stock) instead of just 2. The sauce is extremely thick so extra liquid will help. Also, don't be afraid to add extra spices. While I was cooking it I only added a pinch or so of each and I needed much more. Lastly, be patient. It's a simple dish but takes a while to cook. Hope you enjoy it as much as we did! 

Love ya'll!

The Vet Called Me Crazy

 Dec. 2nd we celebrated Aspen's 1st birthday. It's so hard to believe she is already a year! It seems like yesterday we were driving home with this 6 week old peanut with terrified looks on our faces. We had no clue what we were doing or how to properly take care of a puppy. A year later we still have no clue what we're doing but she's potty trained and hasn't eaten the couch, success! This dog is our child and before you tell me animals and children are different, don't. I'm aware. But for me there are very few differences between furry babies and human babies. Obviously the love for a child exceeds the love of a pet and there are things you'd do for your human child that you wouldn't do for your furry child but if you aren't willing to have a huge love for your pet, treat them like family, and make them apart of your life vs. an accessory in your life then don't get one. Personally I don't think animals deserve to be an accessory, they have too much love to give. Now that my rant is over I can get back to my point, this dog is our child. We've watched her grow up, learn new things, and stuck by her during a very rough first year of life. 

As some of you know this year with her has been more than difficult, here's a quick recap: early on she was throwing up much more than a normal pup should, after months of trying to figure out what's wrong she ended up in the hospital with the vet telling us her digestive organs weren't moving and if it gets any worse she might die. The theory was she had Inflammatory Bowel Disease and after months of food trials we discovered it was only a food sensitivity, praise God! Now she is on a food that is easier on her tummy and life is peachy on that end. However, from a young age we also noticed her behavior was different than most puppies. She wouldn't nap like a normal pup during the day, she didn't want to play with her toys and only wanted to bite us. As she got older the behavior progressed and we had no clue what was happening. She was great in obedience class, understood commands and tricks, and surpassed her classmates on comprehension. But at home things were different, she was becoming aggressive and seemed to never calm down. We didn't understand why this was happening because she got plenty of exercise and stimulation that this breed requires. I talked to her vet and she said it wasn't an obedience issue it was a behavior issue. She referred me to a vet that has a PhD is animal behavior. We met with her and she diagnosed Aspen with severe anxiety (I had no clue dogs could have anxiety! What could they be anxious about??). This threw us both for a loop and I immediately blamed myself. Clearly I did something wrong and the stress of getting married, moving to Ohio, and keeping a puppy alive rubbed off on Aspen and I ruined her. The vet assured me that it wasn't me and most of the time dogs develop anxiety on their own (I still didn't feel better and to this day blame myself). After observation the vet explained to us that Aspen does not know how to calm down. She is almost always in an anxious state and cannot regulate the excitement. It's very similar to humans with anxiety and do not know how to control it. She recommended anti-anxiety medication and we are now on the road to recovery. We meet with the vet monthly to discuss her progress and options to get Aspen to a balanced state. She isn't there yet but she will actually take naps during the day and the biting has dropped tremendously. WOOHOO! So that is where we are today and we are eager to get our baby to a balanced and happy state. Can you imagine what it would be like to not be able to calm down and not have control over it?? Poor thing! 

 At one of our vet visits I was raving about how sweet Aspen is, how funny, entertaining, and loving she can be. Both of us were going on and on about how much we love her and even though we can't wait for her to be balanced and calm down she is an awesome dog. Our vet had no response. She couldn't understand how we could feel that way about her. Even though she is a great vet and very knowledgeable I was stunned a woman that has devoted her life to helping animals could not accept my dog for who she is, sickness and all. We told her even after everything we have gone through we would choose her all over again. She said we were crazy. Why could she not open her mind to see how it's possible to love her? Shouldn't she of all people understand? I began to wonder if she was right. Is Aspen really that bad? My heart has been in a lot of turmoil because of it all. I play the blame game, ask God why she couldn't just be a regular dog, feel so distraught that she feels anxious and I can't fix it, and at the same time feel such happiness because of the joy and fun she brings to our lives. When all of this was too overwhelming my dad was such an encouragement when he said, "Honey, God brought this dog to you because he knew how loving and compassionate you both are. Most would throw that dog away the minute something was wrong but He knew you would stick by her. Plus remember, no dog is perfect." Ever since those words of wisdom I thank God for her and her craziness everyday. I feel honored God allowed us to take care of one of His fragile creatures. 

Aspen has taught me a lot since she's come into our lives. She's shown that patience really is a virtue, love does not require perfection, and the little things in life are sometimes the most exciting. I love her so much! I'd have 100 more of her.....maybe I am crazy. 

~Maddie

The Cincinnati Hater Pays a Compliment

     

     As the end of Fall approaches I realize I haven't posted anything since June, where has the time gone?? I can't say we haven't done anything between then and now, we have! We've been to Montana, parents have visited, we road-tripped to Michigan, I survived the awful summer humidity, and much more. 
     However, I think the most important thing I did this summer was just to stop. I stopped wishing I was in a different state, (even though I still want to be) I stopped wanting to live in a different house, I stopped and started to finally enjoy married life, I stopped focusing on the pesky 5 (or 10) pounds I need to lose and focused on life in the present, life that God has given me right now. I tell you, it has done wonders. I'm happier, more content, and so happy in my marriage! The desires of living back west and every other dream I have are still there but I'm more content with letting God handle those and enjoying the journey.
     The most shocking part of my new content, less cynical self is I, dare I say it, like Cincinnati. Ugh, that leaves a bad taste in my pessimistic mouth. However, before you think I've lost my edge, let me preface that I still hate the suburbs. The sea of Starbucks, Targets, and sub-divisions still disgust me. But, I really like downtown and the surrounding area. 
    When you travel through Cincinnati you feel the spirit of what it was and is becoming once again. It is the most "American" city I have ever been to. It was built by industry, blue-collar immigrants, which is the epitome of the American Dream. You can feel the determination and excitement of revival as you drive the cramped streets filled with classic art-deco architecture. Even when traveling through the "not so great" areas you don't feel threatened because the hope is there too. The four short years I've been visiting, and now living here I have seen a huge revival and change through the streets of Cincinnati. It's been amazing to watch and be a part of. I can't wait to see what's in store for this resilient city and while I'm here I will enjoy every minute of it. 
    While this post was short I think it sums up our summer perfectly. I promise (I mean it this time) I will write more! My encouragement to any who read this is to truly just be present and content in the moment and with the Lord. It's amazing what happens when you let it go....and now you're singing in Idina Menzel's voice. Stop it! I'm trying to be serious here. Truly, let go and let God. 

Love ya'll! 

It's been awhile

Hey Everyone! 

Sorry I haven't posted anything in a while, its been a little crazy around here! I thought I'd give you an update on what's been going on the last month or so....

I feel like most of May I was gone, which I loved! The beginning of May I went back home for my dear friend Katie's wedding. Of course being home was sublime and the wedding was perfection. Katie and Mitch have been dating since our freshman year of high school, I think. Basically, tying the knot was long overdue and I couldn't be more happy for them! It was a lovely back yard wedding that just screamed Katie's style and I couldn't get enough of the cuteness. Plus seeing old friends just topped it off. At the end of May Chad and I took our official honeymoon trip. We road tripped it down to Florida and stayed in my Grandma's condo across the street from the beach. I hadn't been to the condo since I was around seven so being back unleashed so many memories. Chad and I lounged on the beach and basically just soaked up everything Panama City Beach had to offer, we absolutely loved it. On the way back we stayed in Nashville for two days and I fell in love fast. I never thought I could see myself living anywhere except the West Coast but I would move there in a heartbeat and be happy as a clam. I loved the people, the city, and the deep roots of country music everywhere. Chad and I had such a great time and came back with amazing memories. At the end of this month we'll be traveling to Montana which will be awesome and I seriously can't wait!!

Chad has been traveling a lot for work but thankfully things are slowing down and I have my fingers crossed I'll be able to spend a full month with him haha. But seriously, he is killing it at work, he got a big promotion and his team members entrust him with many responsibilities that I'm sure other engineers do not receive. I am insanely proud of him and I can't brag on him enough! He is seriously awesome and the best engineer the company has, I'm completely unbiased of course. I see huge success in his future in whatever he decides to do. I actually just received a job offer today and took it. I will be the office manager for Equipping Ministries International. It is a nonprofit that provides learning material for missionaries all over the world. I am very excited to be working in a Christian environment and learning the responsibilities of how a business runs. It definitely isn't the dream job but I'm learning I don't know what the dream job is for me right now. In the mean time it will be a great experience and extra income! 

Emotionally I am still adjusting to all the changes. I thought I was doing better but with all the trips and seeing friends and family I remembered how not awesome Ohio is. The only things I like about living here are Chad, Aspen, our church, the greenery, and now lightning bugs....those things are awesome. Living in the burbs is still driving me crazy and the house and I don't get along. I love our backyard but it's completely nonfunctional because of the lack of fence. Now, I've discovered humidity and it is dreadful! Give me 100 degree dry heat any day but this stuff is unbearable. Yes, I am aware other places are worse, you don't need to tell me. Thankfully, I have some blossoming friendships that are keeping me somewhat sane. Thanks for putting up with me ladies. God is definitely revealing His plans to us through all of this though which is comforting and we know this situation is not permanent. It is definitely bonding Chad and I and that is such a blessing. 

Little Miss Aspen is awesome! She's six months old now which seems impossible! I can't believe how fast time has flown. Most of her bad habits are gone now and she is turning into a great dog, I hate that I can't say puppy anymore :( She has been having a lot of tummy troubles recently and we are wondering if she has a wheat intolerance. If things continue we will get her tested and take the necessary steps so our little peanut is healthy. At the end of the summer we are going to enroll her in intermediate dog training and are looking into agility training for her. Since she has so much energy it would be perfect for her. We babysat a dog named Jake for some friends a couple weekends ago and fell in love with him and the idea of having two dogs. Aspen and Jake became fast bff's and were so cute playing together. Chad and I knew almost immediately our family would be complete with a second dog. However, right now the timing isn't perfect and we decided to wait until Aspen is at least one and we have a fence. Nevertheless expect a second dog in the Wentling household at some point in the next few years.  

I think I've filled you in on all the major things happening in our lives right now. I promise to keep you more in the loop from now on! ;) 

Love ya'll! 

Maddie